♥ Friendship ♥

I have a lot of friends in school , home and in the whole universe.

I met my First best friend when we was grade 1 . This person is a female. The day that i saw her , she went to school late and scold by our adviser and she was crying , i approach her and asking if she is OK but i already forget what did she said.    When she looked at me I smile and call her name and said ” come , let’s talk ” .She is Gwyneth S. Reyes and a junior student from WMSU .

GWYNETH ” BAM ” S. REYES

All about her

“– ` ii believe that everything happens for a reason , people change so that you can learn to let go , things go wrong so that you can learn to appreciate them whem they are right you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust none but yourself . and sometimes good things fall apart so better things fall together.

ii do my thing and you do yours. i’am not in this world to live up to your expectations. and you are not in this world to live up mine. you are you , and i’am i . and if by chance we find each other , then it is beautiful.

i’am me. in all the world there is no one else exactly like me.everything that comes out of me is authentically mine. because i alone chose it. i own everything about me. my body , my feeling , my mouth , my voice , all my actions whether they be to others or myself. i own my fantasies , my dreams , my hopes , my fears. i own my triumphs and successes . all my failures and mistakes. by so doing , i can love me and be friendly with all my parts. i know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me and the aspects that i do not know. but as long as i’am friendly and loving to myself , i can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me D

` thats it ! rock && rawrr D “

Friendship Day is the occasion, which gives us the chance to extend our sincere gratitude to our pals, for being an important and influential part of our lives. It is the day to have a lot of fun, recall the cherished moments spent with them and exchange gifts, flowers and cards, as a token of love and affection. If you want to know what the best way to say ‘Happy Friendship Day’ is, then read the article. Here, we have given nice wishes for Friendship Day.

When it comes to hanging out with friends, one can be sure that it is going to be absolutely amusing and unlimited fun. The talks seem to go on forever and any silly topic can become a point of lengthy discussions. Be it the latest trend in jewelry, the latest gadgets, old classic movies, the cute neighbor next door, work related pressures, there is no end to the list. In this stressful age, getting together with friends has become a luxury than a daily routine. Consider yourself lucky if you get to hang around with friends often because many people simply remember those good old days of carefree life with friends.

One of the best places to hang out with friends is of course your own house! The comfort that your room offers cannot be offered by any mall or a pub. You can be yourself, kick up your heels, not worry about your looks and talk loudly about anything in the world. You need not worry about what to eat since junk food is just a phone call away! Order loads of pizzas, cola and French fries without worrying about condescending stares. You can eat as much as you want and however you want! The bottom line is to have fun without any worries.

Another fun place to hang around with friends is the lounge. Comfortable seating and soothing ambiance along with chilled drinks is the perfect setting for spending time with friends. If lounging is not your cup of tea, try hitting the bowling alley. A round of bowling games with friends is the perfect way to chill out. In case you are not into bowling, you can always go for a movie. These days you find coffee bars and small fast food joints near movie theaters where you can spend time after watching a movie. Whatever you do, remember to have loads of fun and enjoy. You may not get the opportunity to do so after some years.

There is a unique charm of having female friends. They can make you feel at the top of the world and pamper you like crazy. Agreed, they are prone to mood swings, can be stubborn, cranky and unreasonably sulk for hours together, but the affection they shower on a friend overshadows all these trivial issues. With a woman, friendship can be really rewarding if you are true to each other. A woman can lavish affection and at the same time make you feel absolutely guilty if you break her trust. The bond that is shared in friendship with women is very strong and cannot be broken by any external force.

With a woman, you can share everything and anything under the sun. Each and every conversation, no matter how silly it is, will be interesting. Women friends cheer for each other in testing times, provide a strong shoulder to lean on in distress situations, comfort you with soothing words when hurt and have unadulterated fun when it comes to spending quality time. Sometimes, even their mere presence can perk up a dull day.

Female friendship is different from male friendship on many aspects. Men don’t probe into each others emotions to much and take it easy during a crisis situation. Here is where women score. The emotional bonding with women is at a much higher stage than it is with men. Women know how to comfort and what words to use to make sure that person feels alright. Guys are more into a tough and practical kind of friendship. Guys can be fun to be with but with women, one can expect more emotions and compassion. Female friends are fun to be with and if you find even one true female friend, consider yourself blessed.

True friends never leave each other, even if one of them is walking on the wrong path of life. A true friend will try to correct the other in a way that it does not hurt the ego of the other friend. Friends don’t mind when mistakes are pointed out; rather they try to accept it and change themselves for the better. True friends are those, who inspire others to become a better person in life. A number of inspirational stories are written, based on the theme of true friendship. They tend to inspire the reader. In this article, we have given a motivational story, based on friends.

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Two girls were best of friends, since their childhood. When they were small kids, they used to go to school together, play together and sometimes even stay at each other’s places. They were next door neighbors and thus their parents were friends as well. The best friends graduated from school and went to pursue higher studies in the same college. Everyone knew that the girls were the best of friends. Nothing was hidden between the duo, because both knew each other inside out.

After some days, one of the friends found the other behaving in a very strange manner. She would remain withdrawn, sleep too much and turn violent, very often. At first, the other friend thought it was just the studies getting on to her. However, with time, she became even more moody and frustrated. Finally, her friend couldn’t take it any longer and confronted her with the problem. She broke down into tears and confessed that she was going around with a guy, who was taking drugs and forced her to take them too.

The girl was not only forced to take drugs, but was also forced to bring money every now and then and was threatened with dire consequences, if she revealed the matter to anyone, even her best friend. Shocked by her story, the other friend consoled her. She then thought of a way to help her. Finally, she thought that she would come up straight to the point and tell her to leave this guy and get out of all the mess. She contacted the college counselor, who was a psychologist and narrated all the problem to her. She offered to help and said that matter would be kept under wraps.

The girl was then advised by her friend to leave this guy, as he was torturing her unnecessarily. Her friend reminded her of her dreams of becoming a successful professional, inspired her to set an example for others and reminded of what her parents would feel, if they found out what their daughter was up to. After a lot of persuasion, the girl finally agreed to leave him. She was given basic counseling and was weaned off drugs, with time. All this while, her friend never left her side and always stood by her.

Finally, they graduated and the friendship only grew stronger. They both went on to become successful professionals, but never let each other down by indulging themselves into bad habits. They lived happily ever after, as close friends. The story leaves the reader to think about the depth of friendship shared by the two girls. The moral of the story is that true friends are those, who inspire you to become the best you can ever be. They have full confidence in you. They would not leave you until your goal is accomplished.

When you look at friendship cross-culturally, there are many surprises! Consider the fact that in societies around the world, close friends will sanctify their relationships with elaborate public ceremonies not unlike American weddings or that parents or elders can arrange their children’s friendships in much the same way that marriages are arranged in many parts of the world.

I think one of the more interesting findings, and one that reveals our own American preferences and taboos, concerns the kinds of things that friends are expected to help each other with. For example, in the U.S., we often expect friends to talk through personal problems and disclose deep secrets. Indeed, U.S. researchers often impose this criterion on definitions of friendship.

However, there are many places in the world where such verbal, emotional support is only a minor concern in friendships.

The truth is, there will always be someone in our lives with a bigger bank account, a bigger house, a bigger car, and a bigger attitude. The question should not be do you feel poorer than your friends, but rather why do you care as much as you do ?

In 2010 , wealth has nothing to do with having class & values. We all know some very rich people with very little class, and vice-versa. As we all know, it is empowering to be in control, so if you can’t control your salary so much right now, bear in mind that class is one this you always have control over. Successful friendships thrive when people share the same values and share the same view of what makes a good friend. If you have found a true friend, it shouldn’t matter how much either of you make, you should both feel richer for being a part of each others lives !

• Someone who will be there for me through thick and thin; someone who is honest and caring; someone who I can tell my deepest secrets to; someone who’s not afraid to tell me their deepest secrets; someone who has a good sense of humor; someone who has goals; someone who will just listen to me without judging me.
• Someone who is honest, fun to be with, who likes me for me and can take the good with the bad.
• Someone who is nice and understanding.
• A good listener!
• Someone honest, not completely self-involved and fun.
• Someone who is trustworthy, loyal, kind, fun to be with, funny, not really ditzy, a good listener and someone who likes me for me.

There is nothing more precious than friendship, and this is never more true than when you are a teen. Our close friends become our most trusted confidantes. Without them, life would be very scary and incredibly boring. 

Learning to be a good friend is a process and we are constantly faced with opportunities to practice what we learn along the way. I hope that this journal will provide you with the guidance needed to get to know yourself better and to appreciate this amazing thing called friendship.

Much is written of the sad disillusion experienced by the newly wedded man when he finds his friends are not as welcome at his new fireside as he had expected. These friends of his are not of the sort prophesied by the love of David and Jonathan, but they are valued comrades and he has anticipated sharing the delights of his new home with them. Many a woman in her desire to be all in all to her husband and in the selfish absorption of an undisciplined affection, starts married life the wrong way by making no place in the home life for these old friends of her husband’s bachelor life. That reacts often in the worst possible manner upon his affection for her. She forgets too often that she is not called upon to give up her friends. They can come, and do come, when her husband is away at his work, while his friends, if they come at all, must come in his leisure hours which she often wishes to preempt for herself alone. It is the most short-sighted of follies for a woman to try to sweep clean of all former interests and friendships the life of the man with whom she is to try the great adventure of marriage.

The most a wife can accomplish by selfish denial to her husband of his right to keep his friends and enjoy the old as well as the new companionship is to make it impossible for him to enjoy his friends in her company. She can thus send him off on hunting trips or other outside enjoyments which leave her lonely at home. The fact that few worth-while men or women have lived to the marriage day without deep affection for some friend, or perhaps for many friends, is not a testimony to need of change when a new relation is formed but to the enlargement of both circles of comradeship and their amalgamation into friends of the family. This may be a difficult achievement. Many men and women have found, to their surprise, that although they are in love with wife or husband they are not at all in love with the respective families and still less inclined to accept each other’s chosen friends as their own. One angle alone of the many-sided character may have “made the match;” quite other angles have already attracted and still hold the friends. These often mutually incongruous friends of both sides must somehow be made to attach themselves to the marriage plan or they may work much harm to the new home.

The art of holding on to old associations and yet substituting, where substitution is wise or necessary, a new for an established relationship is a great art. In the case of the newly married whose friends have been in widely different circles, it is often an impossible one.

The man who said, “Our relations are thrust upon us; thank heaven we may choose our friends” expressed a feeling shared by many, that fate may handicap us by giving us birth in an uncongenial circle, but we may recoup ourselves by chosen friends and enjoy companionship with them which our kin cannot furnish.

Friendship has inspired many of the greatest deeds and many of the noblest poems, and has given us examples of heroic devotion almost passing the love of man for woman. It is not within our purpose to recall these great friendships, but they are familiar and furnish the unfailing stimulus of finer sentiment in youth as the classic examples are recited to each generation. Real friendship is a sacred thing. There are pinchbeck imitations which are neither sacred nor helpful. The “mashes” and the “crushes” of school-life are not even good imitations. The bargain-counter exchange of services – “you give me society uplift, and I will give you under-current influence,” as one woman frankly stated it to another, although it may be called friendship, has no element of real affection in it, as the first one to fail in “value received” so clearly understands. The unwholesome absorption of one woman with another, so that no minute apart can be endured, may be long-lived or an ephemeral expression of a weakness on one or the other side, but it is not the best type of friendship. Among men the submergence of one personality in another, so that although there are two people there is but one mind and one purpose, may be friendship, but it is not that equal comradeship which the healthy-minded seek. The friendship between a man and a woman which does not lead to marriage or desire for marriage may be a life-long experience of the greatest value to themselves and to all their circle of acquaintance and of activity; but for this type of friendship both a rare man and a rare woman are needed. Perhaps it should be added that either the man or the woman thus deeply bound in life-long friendship who seeks marriage must find a still rarer man or woman to wed, to make such a three-cornered comradeship a permanent success. Friendship at its best is a task as well as a gratification. Nothing in this world can be had for nothing. “Earth gets its price for what earth gives us.” A really great friendship is a test and a challenge and a “time-consumer,” as Emerson says. It is, next to marriage and parenthood, the most exacting of human relationships. For this reason few men and women can have a great friendship that does not lead to marriage, and at the same time have a complete marriage with another. For this reason again, the great friendships are generally between two unmarried men or two unmarried women.

Two inseparable friends, Sam and Jason, met with an accident on their way to Boston City. The following morning, Jason woke up blind and Sam was still unconscious. Dr. Berkeley was standing at his bedside looking at his health chart and medications with a thoughtful expression on his face. When he saw Sam awake, he beamed at him and asked.” How are you feeling today Sam?” Sam tried to put up a brave face and smiled back saying, “absolutely wonderful Doctor. I am very grateful for all that you have done for me. “Dr Berkeley was moved at Sam’s deed. All that he could say was, “You are a very brave man Sam and God will make it up to you in one way or another”. While he was moving on to the next patient, Sam called back at him almost pleading, “promise me you won’t tell Jason anything”.
“You know I won’t do that. Trust me.” and walked away.
“Thank you ” whispered Sam. He smiled and looked up in prayer ” I hope I live up to your ideas…please give me the strength to be able to go through this..Amen”

Months later when Jason had recuperated considerably, he stopped hanging around with Sam. He felt discouraged and embarrassed to spend time with a disabled person like Sam.
Sam was lonely and disheartened ,since he didn’t have any body else other than Jason to count on. Things went from bad to worse. And one day Sam died in despair. When Jason was called on his burial, he found a letter waiting for him. Dr Berkeley gave it to him with an expressionless face and said” This is for you Jason. Sam had asked me to give it to you when he was gone”.

In the letter he had said: ” Dear Jason, I have kept my promise in the end to lend you my eyes if anything had happened to them. Now there is nothing more that I can ask from God, than the fact ,that will see the world through my eyes. You will always be my best friend……..Sam”.
When he had finished reading Dr. Berkeley said ” I had promised Sam to keep his sacrifice he made a secret from you. But now I wish I didn’t stick it Because I don’t think It was worthy it” .
All that was left for Jason while he stood there was tears of regret and memories of Sam for the rest of his life .

Lesson of the story: No matter what If we make a friend, we should stick by him till the end. Life is meaningless without a friend.

Everywhere you are, be it in an unfamiliar town, a new church, a new school, even on the road, meeting with people and making friends out of them is something so many people shy away from. But right here I have a couple of tips to help turn your world from a lonely island to a crowded city.

1. Be confident

Most people are often lonely, not because they are not attractive or they have one problem or the other, but simply because they are shy or afraid. The simple truth is the average human being wants to make friends, (and that goes for yourself too). One policy I adopt is to ask first, never assume what the other person is thinking; find out first. And that takes some level of courage.

2. Offer a compliment

There is always something good about everyone you meet. And everybody likes to be appreciated. So to get someone’s attention I’ll suggest you offer a compliment. It serves as an ego booster (everyone loves an ego boost) and it is a sure way of establishing a connection and of course a rapport. May I also say that you should be truthful about your compliments. Don’t flatter; compliment. No matter how small, it will be appreciated.

3. Listen more, talk less

Truth is, everyone is more interested in themselves than in other people, hell, that’s the reason you decided to make friends in the first place. So when you try to make a conversation with someone, listen more and talk less. Assure the person that you are listening by good eye contact, affirmations and clever questions. With this you even get to discern what kind of person he or she is. After this it is safe to ask for a phone number and plan to hang out.

4. Pay attention (No technology)

We just talked about getting a phone number, see, most people are always preoccupied with their devices which may be phones, iPods and the works. This is a no-no, it’s a connection blocker. Pay more attention to your immediate surroundings, you will be amazed at who you will notice and who will notice you.

5. Be happy

Everyone has enough problems (even you). Try not to bug others with your issues by putting on a long face. It drives people away. See, even if you make the move, your expression alone can put people on the defensive and no matter how hard you try you may not make headway. Add humor to your lifestyle and you will attract people.

6. Associate yourself with a movement or club

This is also important. Some people live what I’ll like to call a “triangular life”; home to school or work to church and back home. That’s not nice. Join one group or the other, it gives you a chance to mingle with people of your type. You will always have something to talk about.

7. Don’t be idle, do something

This is important in so many ways. These days’ people like to be around people who have something they are doing. You could get a job, make some money. Besides what’s the use of having a girlfriend when you cannot spend some money on her. Beside you meet people any where there is work going on, so you keep making friend no matter what.

8. Go do it

You’ll be at the same level you were if you don’t make a move. Consciously make the effort to go out there and make friends from today. You can start by giving yourself a target number every day. Before you know, it will become a lifestyle.